There are many things you can do to have safer sex. Safer sex means more than preventing sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or unintended pregnancy. It’s also about communication, consent and respect.
There are many things you can do to have safer sex. Safer sex means more than preventing sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or unintended pregnancy. It’s also about communication, consent and respect.
Communication
Communication is an important part of safer sex. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or an open relationship with multiple partners, it’s important to talk about consent, contraception and sexual preferences before you have sex. This is also a good time to talk about things like boundaries and STIs.
Consent
Consent means you agree to have sex or do something sexual, including kissing and intimate touching. Sex should only happen when the people involved give enthusiastic consent with words or body language.
Respect
Common characteristics of a healthy relationship include respect, safety, honesty, kindness and feeling free to be yourself.
If you think you might be in an unhealthy relationship, you can talk to a trusted friend or counsellor. You can also visit the 1800RESPECT website or call 1800 737 732.
How to have safer sex
Use contraception
If you want to avoid pregnancy you need to use contraception. There are many types of contraception available (e.g. condoms, the Pill or an IUD). You have the right to use contraception and choose a method that works best for you.
Protect against STIs
An STI is an infection spread from one person to another during sex. STIs can be spread through semen, vaginal fluids, anal fluids, blood, skin-to- skin contact and, in some cases, saliva. It’s important to communicate openly and agree on protection before you have sex.
The safest way to have sex and reduce the risk of STIs is to use condoms (external or internal) or dental dams and water-based lubricant (lube). Note that you need to practise safer sex when you have your period.
Get tested
The only way to know if you have an STI is to have an STI test. It’s a good idea to do this before having sex with a new partner.
If you are diagnosed with an STI, it’s important to follow the treatment recommended by your doctor. You should also tell anyone you’ve recently had sexual contact with so they can be tested and treated too.
When to see your doctor
It’s recommended you have regular sexual health checks if you’re sexually active.
Talk to your doctor about how often you should have a sexual health check. You can also ask about contraception during your appointment.
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